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Self confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared out of your wits. Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality — the more self confidence you have, the more likely it is you’ll succeed.
自信与势不可挡的感觉以及被吓得手足无措的感觉是截然不同的。（这句大家再看看原文了）你对自己的感觉极大的影响着别人对你的感觉。这种感觉是真实的——你越是自信，你越有可能成功。

Although many of the factors affecting self confidence are beyond your control, there are a number of things you can consciously do to build self confidence. By using these 10 strategies you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential.
尽管有许多你不可控制的因素会影响你的自信，但仍然有很多东西是你可以掌控的，并且可用之于建立自己的自信。通过以下10个方法，可以帮助你获得心理优势，从而激发你的潜力。

1. Dress Sharp
Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently, wearing clean clothes, and being cognizant of the latest styles.
This doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is “spend twice as much, buy half as much”. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.
1.  干净利落的服饰
        虽然衣服并不能够成就一个男人，但是它确实可以影响你对自己的感觉。没有人比你自己更在乎自己的外表。当你看上去并不好的时候，它将改变你对自己的看法及阻碍你与其他人的沟通。精心照顾好你的外表，可以更好的利用这一优势。在大多数情况下，重要的改善方法是经常的沐浴、勤剃胡须，穿干净的衣服，并尝试接触最新的潮流款式。
        这并不意味着你需要花很多钱在服饰上，最佳的方案就是遵循这样的规律“花两倍的钱，买一半数量的衣服”。这句话的意思并不是说买一大堆的廉价衣服，而是应该买一半数量的精心挑选的高质量的衣服。这从长远来看将节约开支，因为贵重衣服通常穿起来比廉价衣服更容易保持持久，少买衣服也同样有助于减少你衣柜里的杂物。

2. Walk Faster
One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.
2.   快步走
最容易向别人透露一个人精神面貌的是这个人的走路。是否很慢？是否累？是否痛苦的？或者是充满活力的以及有目标方向的？满怀信心的人通常走路快。他们有目标和方向，有要会见的人，有重要的工作要做。即使你并不赶时间，你也可以通过快步走来提高自信。提高25%的步行速度将是你看上去变得更加重要。

3. Good Posture
Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.
3.  良好的姿势

        同样的，一个人的姿势流露了他的内心。一个人耸肩及下滑的动作表现出这个人缺乏自信。他们对正在做的事情并不热情，或者他们不认为自己是最重要的。通过练习好的姿态，你将会自动感觉到自信。挺直腰杆，抬起头，与他人进行眼神的接触。你将给他人以正面的印象同时使他人更加的重视和在意你。

4. Personal Commercial

One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.

4.  个人的商业演讲

          最佳的建立自信的方法之一是聆听一篇充满激情的演讲。可惜，能够聆听到优秀的演讲的机会凤毛麟角。你可以通过自己创造一次演讲来弥补这方面的需要。写一篇30-60秒的演讲，内容是突出你自己的优势和你的目标。当你需要自信的时候，面对镜子大声地背诵它（如果你喜欢的话可以在你的头脑里面默念）。

5. Gratitude

When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.

5.  感恩的心

          当你过度的关注你想要的东西，你心中将涌现众多你所不能够达成目标的原因。这将导致你感觉到虚弱。最好的避免出现这种情况的方法是有意识的拥有一颗感恩的心。每天在头脑里面拿出一些时间来列出你需要感谢的人。回忆你过去的成功，独特的技能，爱的关系以及一切积极的因素。你将会惊讶于你所得到的，以及激励你为成功而迈出下一步。

6. Compliment other people

When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.

6.   赞美他人

         当我们对自己消极的时候，我们常常对他人也抱有某种侮辱或不屑。为了打破这种消极的循环，你应该要拒绝卷入那种流言蜚语的议论中，而是转而对周围的人真诚的赞美。在这个过程中，你将变得更加讨人喜欢同时建立起你的自信。通过看到他人的优点，你将间接的秀出一个最好的你。

7. Sit in the front row

In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.

7.   坐在前排

         在世界各地的学校，办公室或者公共场合，人们不断的争取坐在后面的位置。大多数的人们宁愿坐在后面是因为他们害怕被注意。这将导致自信心的缺乏。通过决定坐在前面，你可以不断的战胜你的恐惧以及建立起你的自信。你将同样看到许多重要的人物一般都坐在前面的位置。

8. Speak up

During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

8.   发言

         在小组讨论中很多人从来不发言，因为他们害怕人们通过他们的说话而认为自己愚蠢。这样的害怕是不合理的。一般而言，人们更不愿意接受的是猜测。事实上，很多人在打交道时都会有这样的恐惧。努力在每一次小组讨论中至少发言一次，你将成为一个更好的公共演讲者，对你自己的想法更加的自信，同时也将被你的同龄人看作领导。

9. Work out

Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physcial appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.

9.  锻炼？（猜测可能是）

         与个人形象，外表一样，锻炼对人的自信有较大的影响。如果你体态不出众，你会觉得不安全，没有吸引力并且缺少活力。通过锻炼，你可以提升你的物理形象，使你充满热情，以及积极的完成事情。保持有规律的锻炼，将不仅使你觉得更好，也将使你在一天剩下的时间充满活力。

10. Focus on contribution

Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.

10.  关注贡献

           我们常常过于关注自己的欲望。我们关注自己过多以至于没有足够的去关注需要关注的人们。如果你停止思考你自己，并且关注你对这个世界所给出的贡献，你将不再对你的缺点担心。这将提高你的自信并且让以更高的效率贡献更多。你对这个世界贡献的越多，你将得到更多的个人成功及认可。

摘于: http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/10-ways-to-instantly-build-self-confidence